Deep in your bones, you know there has to be another way.
You’ve always done things your own way, made some unconventional choices. And things have mostly worked out to have you be where you want to be. But now, something feels off.
You’re hard on yourself; you’ve got high standards. And you’re really good at managing your habits, your discipline, your reactions, your words.
And even though you’re accomplished, you still feel layers of doubt – like somehow you’ve gotten lucky, or you just haven’t been scrutinized closely enough…yet.
Few, if any in your life, see all of you. In fact, you’re not sure if all of you has ever appeared in the same room at the same time. It takes a lot to earn your trust, and you don’t open up easily.
You’ve followed the formula for success: hard work, persistence, toughness, and grit. You’ve worn those characteristics like a badge of honor.
And they’ve served you well. Until now.
You’d thought you’d be closer to the things you wanted by now: a certain place in your career, a relationship or family of your dreams, a reveling in how great your life is on a daily basis, more umbrella’d drinks on sandy beaches.
You think you *should* be enjoying it more, you *should* be more grateful for what you’ve got. You *shouldn’t* have to work so damn hard to keep it all together.
But you’re tired. So, so tired. It’s not about sleep. You can feel that you’re running on fumes and an unsettled soul, and you don’t know how much longer that can last.
Mostly you’re tired of the conflict of wondering if you’re enough or too much. Doing enough; doing too much. Being enough; being too much. Performing well enough; performing too much. Serving enough; serving too much.
What would it feel like to relax fully into who you really are?
You imagine this life where you just get to be you – and that’s enough. You, unfiltered; you’re not even sure you would know what that looks like.
You know there are times when you keep your mouth shut because you don’t know how you’ll be received, but you’re ready to break the habits that keep your gifts and talents hidden or subject to someone else’s opinion of them.
You want to become a powerful advocate for yourself. You want to feel free to make choices that are in your best interests, not because you feel like you have to, or you should. You’re ready to find the right amounts of connection with others, where you feel seen and heard.
You’re ready to get off the emotional rollercoaster of wondering if you’re cut out for the life you’ve chosen. You’d love for the voices in your head – the ones that tear you down, say mean things, and make you doubt yourself – to be silenced.
You want to trust that you can nurture and accomplish all the big dreams for your life – without doubting yourself or your choices.
You’re ready to live the life that is available when your clear sense of who you are, your purpose, and your certainty that you can have it, is what pulls you forward. You’re not running from where you are; you’re allowing yourself to move towards something you want even more.
Do any of these sound familiar?
- You know something needs to change, but you’re tired of getting help that just seems to band-aid the problem.
- In your darker moments, you’re afraid you’re just not cut out to build the life you want, or even wonder if it’s possible.
- You’re pretty good at turning off your feelings in order to get things done.
- You know you get in your own way, but you can’t see it clearly enough to stop doing it.
- Other people are always saying how great you are, but you have a persistent sense of not being enough.
Changing how you feel about your life requires looking through a different lens.
I’m Rachel, and I help successful, independent women ready to transform their lives, and perhaps more importantly, the way they feel about them. I take them on a path of exploration to deeply know themselves, their worth, and their power.
I’ve been down the path of believing I *should* be a certain kind of woman. I had something to prove in the world, I had to do everything myself, I couldn’t make other people uncomfortable, I didn’t deserve to come first. But I was tired. So tired.
As soon as I realized all of the reasons I had invented for staying small were bullshit, I set out to change. I dismantled my stories and excuses. I created big experiments for myself so I could become who I wanted to become in the world – independent of everyone else’s expectations of me.
I developed a sense of loyalty to myself that I’d never had before.
I have a gift. (Ok, that’s a lie. I have many.) I can see patterns that others can’t see. I can hear the tone of your voice that tells me just how badly that thing you want to rush past hurts. I keep bringing you back to yourself, wherever you are, so you can strip away what isn’t serving you and build the life you really want from your fullest sense of worth. I make the really challenging work of personal development fun, practical and accessible.
Orient externally by trusting who you are internally.
You are an always-changing woman. There are infinitely more layers and experiences for you to expand into. And we’ll go as deep as the current version of you allows.
The bottom line of our work together, though, is that no matter which layer you’re working with, we’ll tend to three central themes:
- Bring all of yourself to your whole life – no more hiding. You’ll strip away all that isn’t serving you, all that isn’t authentically you.
- You’ll not just intellectually understand your worth, but you’ll behave like you know it – all the time, until you fully believe it.
- You’ll claim your power. You will find the source of your fuel and marry that with what it means to take full responsibility for your life. You’ll understand exactly how powerful you are in your ability to influence your own life.
What the results of those things look like in your life is entirely up to you. My clients have used this work to:
- Develop deep, healthy relationships with partners.
- Pursue an alternate career path.
- Shift challenging family dynamics.
- Take more time and space for themselves.
- Get their zest for life back, so they’re excited to wake up in the morning.
- Connect to their sense of purpose and commit to it fully without sacrificing themselves.
She has seen things in me that I refused to see in myself but have been holding me back in ways that are not serving me. She delivers this with loving honesty, in a way that makes me say “Goddammit, she’s right. OUCH. OK, let’s take a baby step…” and then she’s there to nudge me on when I tiptoe a little bit backwards.”
– Stephanie Hayes, Squamish, BC, Canada
Confident. Clear. Connected.
This is the kind of work that changes how you relate to yourself and everything around you forever. Lasting, sustainable change, so that you can finally trust who you are.
If you’re ready to step into the fullest version of yourself, and build a life that comes from that, let’s talk. Schedule a complimentary coaching call to experience my coaching and for us each to see if we’re a good fit for working together.
“I started working with Rachel when I was re-entering the dating world after having not dated for about 10 years.
Since working with Rachel, I communicate more directly and more confidently. I am building self-esteem like I never thought possible. I’m not afraid to ask about having my needs and desires met. I don’t avoid uncomfortable situations or let them fester to the point of disaster.
She has this great skill of peeling back the layers and getting down to the point really quickly by pulling out the important details that helped me understand the feelings I was experiencing and how to resolve them. She is direct and specific, and will call you on your shit, if needed.
I highly recommend working with Rachel.”
– Kimberly Palmer, Los Angeles, CA
“If you really want to be intentional about your next relationship, you’re going to get change out of working with Rachel. The feedback. The coaching. The honesty and hard questions. As a result of working with Rachel, I’m more self-aware and engaging in what I want from a relationship.”
– Jen Hope, Seattle, WA
“You sparked a revolution in my thinking around what’s possible in relationships. I now think of what I want as much as I think of others; I give myself more permission to think of myself first. The biggest takeaway I got was that I can communicate and ask for what i want and I don’t have to worry about that being ‘reasonable’ or ‘right’.”
– Michelle Tessensohn, Singapore
“When I first met Rachel, I was at a point in my life where I really thought I was ready for a relationship for the first time since my divorce two years ago. The only thing was, I was still entertaining fun flings that were going nowhere.
I love Rachel’s style; she coaches intuitively with a no-nonsense directness minus the judgement. That all made me feel like I could really trust and confide in her. She gave me great homework assignments and challenged me to claim what I want and feel good about it.
Working with Rachel, I was able to clear my energy of my dead-end dating habits and enter into the healthy relationship that I have always longed for.
I would highly recommend Rachel to anyone looking to begin a healthy relationship or make the relationship they’re already in a stronger one.”
– Peggy Bennett, Kirkland, WA