Last week, an opportunity fell in my lap that I wanted so badly, I could hardly contain myself. (If I’m being honest, I knew it was coming, as I’d seen signs of it in the months prior, but I didn’t really know how much I wanted it until it was offered to me.) It was big. It was juicy. It was expensive. And I knew it would be life-changing. Every part of me knew it was right.
I had no idea how I was going to pull it off. But that didn’t stop me.
I said yes.
Living the big life can’t be filled with lukewarm feelings about my choices. Meh is no longer an option. I felt the f*ck yes*, and decided to follow it.
This used to scare the shit out of me.
I used to be in the habit of using my brain to decide whether I was going to do something or not. Did I have enough money? Did I think the return would be enough? Was I going to be on my period that day? What would other people think? What were chances that I’d be successful at it?
So many questions, aimed solely at keeping my ego safe. (That’s the part of you designed to keep you confined to known experiences, the part that knows what to expect.) These questions weren’t designed to support me in having the thing I wanted; they were designed precisely to TALK ME OUT OF IT!
I used to ask for some time to think about it. And the longer I thought about it, and the more questions I asked myself, the more times I weighed the pros and cons, the more I ended up saying no. The more scared I got.
I didn’t say no because I didn’t want it; I said no because I was scared that it wouldn’t work out.
It was a self-fulfilling prophesy. Until I learned to back the energy of my yes.
Yes is expansion.
Yes is motion.
Yes is receiving.
Yes is energy with somewhere to go.
In order for your yes to flourish and materialize, it needs support.
Like I mentioned above, I have no idea how I’m going to pull this off, but I’m walking towards yes. My calendar is cleared for those dates, my suitcase is out, I’m doing the prep work, and taking all the action I know to take to allow this to happen for me.
And I’m not entertaining no as an option.
Does your excited yes often turn into a very rational no?
If this has happened to you more than once, it’s not just that the opportunity turned sour, or you changed your mind about wanting it. Somewhere your ego convinced you to stay where you are.
Let’s tackle your yes together! No more meh decisions for you! I’ve put together Claim Your Yes, a coaching program designed to help you ride the energy of yes and support you to get all the way there. If this is you, reach out and tell me what you want to say yes to, and I’ll share details from there!
*There’s an often-cited author named Mark Manson who lays out a pretty solid argument that anything less than a f*ck yes is a hell no. (I don’t agree with all of it, but I do agree with pursuing the things that you are a f*ck yes to!)