“Gah, Rachel…everything was going so great! It was like one thing led to the next, and then the next, and it all lined up perfectly. And then it all just came to a complete stop. What happened?!”
People ask me this question all the time.
And today I’m going to answer it, because what you do when you hit this point (and we all do), matters a lot if you want to get back to that place of it all lining up perfectly again anytime soon.
The moment when you flip from lots of positive momentum to none is a crucial one.
You feel something you don’t want to feel.
And maybe something happens to make you feel something you don’t want to feel, but the feeling is that part that’s important here.
Let’s say you get into a car accident. And you know it was your fault. So you feel guilty. (But you know admitting your guilt will cause more problems than you care to deal with, so you pretend that it wasn’t your fault, or you make up a tiny, white lie.)
You refuse to acknowledge the guilt. You push it away.
And before you know it, you feel stuck. Or all the things that were going so well have fizzled or slowed way down.
What went wrong?
It’s not the feeling that you had. It’s the failure to acknowledge it or consider it.
On an energetic level…
To break this down from an energetic perspective, when things are flowing in your life, your energy is moving. In and out. You’re putting energy out, things are flowing in.
And when we experience a feeling that we don’t want to feel, we have to push it away. To close up so it can’t get in any deeper than it already has. This leaves you in a closed off state of being, and you’re unable to receive – to let energy (in whatever form) in.
We have to create separation between ourselves and that feeling we don’t want to feel…and that separation then exists between ourselves and EVERYTHING.
And that’s when everything stops.
How to get that momentum back.
It used to take me days to notice that something was off. And I’d have no idea what caused it, and I’d end up just feeling really frustrated, like the universe just didn’t like me or something.
Because I’ve been able to put my finger on the thing that needs to happen to shift the energy back into a reception-mode, I’ve been able to shorten that cycle, sometimes to minutes. (It depends on how tuned in to my own energy I am when I block that feeling I don’t want to acknowledge.)
So instead of wallowing in how great things were and now they’re not, all you need to do is go back to the moment when you felt something that you didn’t want to feel (and as a result, pushed away).
Go back to it.
Acknowledge that it was there.
See if you can see what it was trying to communicate with you.
If there’s anything to do, do that. (This might be having a conversation with someone, doing something to find clarity around the particular topic, or just taking more space to feel it all the way.)
It make take a day or two or three, but this will lead you back to flow. (Because that’s really all flow is – doing the thing that feels right at the right time in a way that makes it seem like everything is conspiring for you. In order for this to exist, every kind of energy has to be available to you.)
Can you see it? When’s the last time you felt some kind of flow and found yourself stopped or stuck? Can you trace it back to a feeling that needed some airtime?